I remember as a child growing up, thinking and crying to myself "if my mother was going to die i do not know what i would do with myself, life would be over for me and happiness would disappear with her". Well that day came and my mother died and i am not as sad as i though i would be, i am not devastated and life as i know it is not over. I find that same childhood fear coming back to me when i think about my dog Rambo dying. but then i feel comfort in the fact that i had the same feelings for my mother and I am Okay. Even with my own death, i do not fear it and almost welcome it when it is going to come. I express this to my family as often as the opportunity arises. like a couple days ago my sister text ed me and told me that in her dream i died in a motorcycle accident( i have a sports bike) I immediately wrote her back and told her that i am sorry she had a night mare but is i was to die on my bike to remember that i loved her and Caleb her son, that i love my family very much and that i have lived a very happy and full filling life and if it was to end then i would welcome death and not be sad for the transition. Then i added that if i died so soon then it would be my mother calling me to her side to explore what lies beyond life as we know it. My acceptance of death is routed in my belief system that there is life after death. I have no idea in what shape or form it is, i could not paint a picture of it or describe it in a story, it is a simple hope i have. I am not sure where i got this belief system from because neither of my parents talked about after life and my dad actually doesn't believe in anything after death. My mother was catholic but never practised and never talked about religion. this belief system is just there, my sisters have their own, not just like mine but similar. My Best friend and soul sister believes the same after life beliefs i do. Its funny how that worked out, but it is what it is. And its this simple belief that allows me to face death of loved ones and myself with open arms and my chin up. there is nothing to fear about change and death is just a change.
I do not expect everyone to be as open about death as i am, and this class has shown me that death is dealt with very differently by everyone and that's okay, i just hope that peace can find all of you that have dealt with, are dealing with or going to deal with death. Another thing that's helps me is putting myself in the spirit of dead, how would i want other people to react. I don't want to make people cry, i don't want to cut them so deep that they are stricken with grief. i just want them to know that i loved them and that i will always be around whether in spirit or in mind or in memory. And as an end note, care for the ones you love like there is no tomorrow.
I really like this post. I too, have no fear of death. I just worry about the ones I leave behind. I've lived quite the accident prone life, and a few of them being pretty extreme. To the point where I've had doctors hold my hands and pray with me because they have no idea how I survived a car accident. I wouldn't say that I live my life recklessly but I definetely don't hold back. I can imagine you're somewhat the same since you have a motorcycle. Haha! I too believe in a life after, not sure exactly what but I can't imagine life here on earth is all there is. Thanks for your post, it was very easy to relate to!
ReplyDeleteI agree with the belief that you have no fear of death, I too am not afraid to die. I think were more afraid of leaving behind the ones we love and hoping they remember us and that our lives were worth living. Other than being afraid of any pain during death, this would be my only concern.
ReplyDeleteI can't say I fear the prospect of death itself either. I'm an agnostic person, so I don't hold any particular belief system in mind. As such, I bare a lot of curiosity when it comes to subjects about death. It's best to accept the prospect of death in my opinion. It helps with coping for the loss of the people you know in life.
ReplyDeleteI can relate and say that I don’t fear death like I use too. I know and understand that it is a natural part of life. I also use to think how will I manage if my mom died, I often found myself crying sometimes because the thought so was painful. But after thinking about the life she has lived I find comfort and peace to know everything will end up good. When I think of me dying, I feel like I have communicated enough that my best friend and immediate family would know that I am ok now and in a better place; in heaven.
ReplyDeleteKrystal A.
Before starting this class, I didn’t really have a fear towards death nor did I really worry about it. I guess I had feelings of indifference towards the subject of death. After being a part of this class, I still view death in a somewhat indifferent way and I still do not fear it. I think I will die when I am supposed to die and I am ok with that. I was raised to believe that death is something to not be feared because it’s going to happen to everyone at some point and no one can escape it. I haven’t lost a loved one to death yet and have never been to a funeral or even seen a dead person before, so I haven’t had the experience of losing a loved one or having to directly deal with the subject of death.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know if I believe in a life after death or not. I figure that once I’m dead anyways, I am not going to care about my life on Earth, whether or not I go into a spiritual world or disappear into blackness forever.
I asked my friends how they feel about death, and most of them said that they are scared of it. I asked them why they see death in such a bad way and most of them responded with “I don’t know what is after death”. I think that the unknown is the most feared part about death. The monsters and grim reaper depicted in pictures and movies is not really death itself, but the unknowns surrounding death. No matter what culture, race or religion humans are our fears of not knowing whats going to happen to us after death lives in art, pictures, and other mediums. We want to know the answers to everything, but sadly, that’s not always going to happen.
- Ashley Worden